We can all probably think of some songs that bring up strong emotions or memories.
Did you know one sign of trauma that effects some people on a deep level is sensitivity to music? And sometimes even an avoidance of it?
That was me.
I had a short playlist of songs that were “safe”me to listen to. Listening to the radio meant the possibility of breaking down and crying.
I broke down in tears at restaurants, at stores, restaurants, in the car with someone. It was a chance every time I went out.
It’s because of the emotional trigger.
It could be that it was your ex’s favorite song or simply a note or a lyric strikes a cord that triggers a memory, or an emotional response. It happens to everyone, some are just more sensitive.
I grew up singing so this sucked, but for years I protected myself and kept my playlist limited.
I woke up today and listened to music. I listened to Queen and David Bowie and it lifted my spirits. I play percussion for fun and years ago I started singing again. I do a lot of channeled, free singing as well. I just sing notes and sounds however feels good.
I’m not a musician and it’s okay if you aren’t either. We should all still sing our song, play along, and let the notes be heard.
The frequency of music is felt on multiple dimensions. It’s a way to communicate with Spirit.
Where to start:
If you’ve ever felt like maybe you’re weird for not being able to enjoy music as much as others, you’re not. You’re completely normal. It could be a sign of trauma and that’s okay too.
Here are some tips on where to start the healing process so you can enjoy music again:
1. In a safe container or place, listen to the songs that make you feel.
2. Listen to and sing or dance to those songs that light you up too!
3 Try channeled singing (see above) or other forms of music therapy.
Deann Rae Jensen
Overcome your inner blocks to become empowered in life!
There is a saying that meditation is good in the beginning, good in the middle, and good in the end.
However, I feel it is more like there is resistance in the beginning, resistance later on, and resistance even later on.
I often get clients and people who reach out to me about how they would love to have a meditation practice, but have resistance around it even though they know it is good for them. There is resistance because it is good for them!
I hope to help normalize the resistance because I hear it a lot in private, but I don’t hear it talked about a lot. I think that people think meditation teachers don’t experience resistance. I do meditate every day, but there have been times when that has not been the case and I have experienced so much of my own resistance. It has been worth it to work through the resistance.
The Misconception that You Have to Clear Your Mind
One of the leading causes to resistance is the belief that we are not good at meditation or cannot clear the mind. The instructions for meditation sound simple enough until you try it. There is resistance that pops up when we realize it’s not so simple and might actually take practice. We doubt it we are doing it right or if it is even something that is possible for us.
People often think that my meditation practice is one of complete bliss or a complete clearing of the mind. I have learned to access the bliss field, how to concentrate my mind, how to let go and distress (all things I teach in my meditation class, Meditate to Achieve), but every sitting is not comfortable and I have many thoughts going through my mind at any given time just like anyone else.
There is no perfect experience and no perfect way, yet every experience is perfect because it is always yours. Thoughts are normal during meditation and completely welcome.
Resistance to Change and the Ego
Then there is the fact that even though deep down we want insight, there is resistance to change. The ego wants to hold on to it’s current view of the world and really doesn’t want you to challenge that view.
We can have a conscious intention, but the subconscious has another plan.
We want to be good students, but this may not be serving us. We are told that meditation allows us to be nonreactive or that we should be nonreactive in meditation, but then something unpleasable pops up. Daily practice is not always perfect and it is okay to show yourself grace.
Resistance is the mind’s attempt to control and redirect. Have you ever noticed how important little things that never mattered before become when your trying to make time for a practice?
Support When Learning
In the beginning, I learned from a group. I went to weekly group meditations and this was my practice at first. It was super uncomfortable. If I hadn’t been with a group, I would have given up after probably about 30 seconds.
Healing Anxiety in Business: An Early Break in the Mother/Child Bond
Do you have traumatic events in your childhood, teenage years, a past life or family history that have been undealt with?
We may think that time heals all wounds, but unprocessed emotions will pop up in sometimes sneaky ways and it hard to know where they are coming from and they will keep popping up until we deal with them.
Healing Anxiety & Depression
I’ve been on my healing journey for a long time. I’ve been on it since the day I was born. I’ve never truly felt safe or supported here on Earth in my body. I love the Earth and all it’s creatures, but it was a feeling I just couldn’t ignore. I consciously decided to start healing when I was 20 years old. I was tired of feeling anxious, I was tired of being depressed, and I was tired of trying to put band aids on these things with medications, self-medicating, sex, and alcohol. I knew there was a better way, there had to be. That’s when I was introduced to yoga, meditation, energy healing and a world where I felt like I was home. I had returned home and the feeling of being unsafe started to go away.
A New Adventure
Then, in 2018, I remember when to started to get the calls to start my coaching business. It felt like the answer, to be able to have a career that was totally aligned with my desired lifestyle and one where I could teach and help others in way that was aligned with my values. I desired to live a life with more freedom, a life in alignment with my soul.
In many ways, this was the answer to a huge problem I had feeling totally out of place in the working world. It was also the path to even deeper healing for me. I have always been in love with what I do, but putting myself out there in the world with my business was new territory that I had never tread across. I could feel my feelings of feeling unsafe in this world come up on a whole new level.
I remembered how I had healed my anxiety before and a huge piece was looking at my family and childhood trauma. I went back there with a different perspective. It became clear to me where I needed to heal. Through subconscious healing work around this in hypnosis, a memory came up.
Healing with Hypnosis
When I was born, I was choking on fluid from my mother’s womb. I almost died, but because of modern technology and medicine, I was able to get the help I needed to make it into this world and live. I was immediately rushed to another hospital and taken from my mother in order to survive. I had to stay in the hospital for weeks. This early break of the bond with my mother effected my ability to feel secure. It even effected my ability to feel financially vital and supported. It happened at such a young age that I didn’t have the memory to recall upon in my conscious mind. It was just a bunch of feelings and emotions that where hard to identify where they were coming from.
I knew I had found the root because when I went back there in hypnosis, I cried deeply. I held that precious little baby and I held myself. I let her know that I would never leave her alone and that she is safe and supported. “I’m so sorry little one, you are safe, you are held, you are loved, protected and guided.”
I went back to my moment of birth and watched it from a new perspective, what I call the “bird’s eye view.” I saw and felt details that I could not consciously remember. There was some physical pain that needed to be releases, I could physically feel the tube that went down my throat to help me breathe and felt a pain in the side of my belly. Then, I saw that I was loved and I was held. I was prayed for and I had angels by my side. I could feel them and see them, holding me. I knew I would make it through and they were assuring me. Someone even let me hold their finger on the helicopter ride.
I saw how truly support I was in those moments. I know now that I am here for a reason, I have work to do and I intend to do it. I feel both safe and supported. I was a miracle. I was a pure, innocent, magical baby. The truth is, we are all miracles. We are all pure, innocent, magical babies that grew up.
Unresolved traumatic events in our lives and families can hinder how success flows to us and how we receive it.
When books, programs, coaches have been unhelpful, when prescribed plans and strategies such as developing effective habits, expanding your social network, visualizing your future success, and repeating money affirmations that are supposed to help you prosper have never seem to help you achieve your goals no matter what you do of which plan you follow, then the key may be in hidden unresolved trauma from this lifetime, a past lifetime, or in our family history.
Deann Rae Jensen
If you are finding yourself stuck in a pattern of anxiety, overwhelm, or unhelpful emotions that stop you from taking action on your goals and desires…It’s time to resolve once and for all by identifying and releasing the root! 🌱 This is why hypnotherapy is so powerful, it allows us to do the work!
Healing is a returning home, of feeling wholeness. Sometimes, it means retrieving parts of yourself that were lost in trauma or emotional events.
I feel like this last week I have had numerous opportunities for healing pop up and I took the time to heal. I am sharing two of these experiences with you so you can know that self-healing is possible and hopefully from hearing my story you will gain some healing yourself.
Last week, a song came on the radio that reminded me of time in middle school I had almost forgotten when I was bullied about my looks. I got teased a lot of being tall, for dressing differently, for liking different TV shows.
Then, a couple days later I noticed a tightness in my solar plexus. I had been feeling a block arise that I thought I had healed before, the fear of judgement from others. New level, same devil, different clothes.
I used some subconscious mind techniques to get to the root of the feeling. It was interesting what popped up, another memory I had almost forgotten. When I was 14 and going through the court case tied to my sexual abuse, there was a hearing before the trail. The courthouse was packed and my mom, dad, our paralegal and I only had one place to sit. I remember having this same feeling sitting there waiting for our turn. I remember realizing that we were sitting right next to the mom and dad of my abuser, something our paralegal said was not supposed to happen, and the feeling got more intense. I just knew they hated me and I felt judged the whole time.
In both cases, I allowed the feelings to come up and I allowed myself to feel them, and sent them love. When memories or emotions arise, it is an opportunity to heal. When you have the tools for self healing you can take the opportunities that arise to heal in the moment.
In both cases, I didn’t run from the feelings, and once they had their say, I was able to see myself in those situations and was able to see them from a new perspective and the lessons these situations held. Then, I went back in a meditative/hypnotic state and found the parts of me that were lost in those moments, the fractured parts of my soul. I found the hurt teenager who felt judged and ridiculed for being herself and was able to comfort her and bring her back into myself, no longer denying these parts of myself that were ridiculed in the past, but embracing them.
The lesson I learned was it was their own life experiences, filters, their own lens that they see the world through that were projected on me in those moments and at some point I took them on as my own and started judging myself. I could also see that when we focus on those who reject us, we miss out on a whole lot of people who accept us completely. You get what you focus on. The next day a friend of mine told me that when you know deeply who you are, it doesn’t matter what others think. This just solidified the lesson for me.
This is just a sneak peak into the world of healing. It isn’t always pretty and it isn’t always fun but it is always powerful and a returning home to who you really are. I have not felt that feeling in my solar plexus since. I feel more at peace with who I am and sharing that.
The next time something pops up for you, try to take a closer look. Feel the feelings, send them love, and go back and imagine yourself giving yourself what you needed in that moment and reclaim yourself (and if you need support, I am always here). All healing is self-healing.
Deann Rae Jensen
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Why do some of us have things that we desire for years, but never achieve?
It’s because they are out of alignment. If you’re not in alignment with what you desire, you will self-sabotage or stay stuck in a battle with yourself in achieving and receiving your desires.
What do I mean by alignment?
I mean your identity is aligned with your values and beliefs, your potential and behavior, and your results are a product of that alignment (or misalignment).
Let me paint a picture in your mind. If all you want is to have your own success business, those are the results you desire. You want to make six and seven figures and have services or products that sell out. You also want to have the time and money freedom to do whatever you want, travel, buy a house, whatever it is. Most people think that you need to have the results first, then they can do the things they want and be the person they want. The fact is though that you must first BE. Then, comes the doing and then the having. This is done by alignment of the six layers of the mind.
It starts at the level of the mind called your IDENTITY. Do you identify as a successful business owner? When you say the words “I am…” in your mind, what comes after them?
Then, what are your values? Do you value structure or freedom? Do any of your values conflict with your identity, your beliefs, your behavior, or the results you desire? When there is misalignment at any level of the mind, you can expect inner conflict.
Your identity and values trickle into your beliefs and your beliefs also influence your identity and values. These three layers (identity, values, and beliefs) are at the level of being.
A layer that lays somewhere between being and doing is potential. What knowledge, information, and resources do you have available to you? Most people think they are limited by their potential, but the truth is that you have unlimited potential stored in your subconscious mind.
The next layer is behavior, which is doing. Behavior is influenced by the pervious layers of the mind and they are what create results. When we take the time to align the other layers, behavior changes. When we take the time to imagine new behaviors, we can start to change the patterns in our bodies.
Results is the last layer, and this is at the level of having. Be, do, have. You will have what is a match for the alignment of the other layers.
With a good hypnotherapist, they can help you reach and align these six layers of the mind (identity, values, beliefs, potential, behavior, and results). This is why hypnotherapy is so powerful. When in a natural, relaxed state your mind creates pictures, sounds, and symbols in response to direct suggestions and imagery from the hypnotherapist that are designed to reach and align even the deepest layers of the mind.